How does your spiritual side view this ?

Girls in their teenage years aspire to become as beautiful as possible trying to match up to the Ideal beauty queen in their mind. From where do they derive these ideals ? Ofcourse, they pick the vibes sent out by young men. We all know that beauty is Relative. Any woman who aspires to become beautiful does so to gain corresponding attention in return. What these young people often fail to remember is that of all the aspects of their personality, the skin would be the first one to show up signs of ageing. Thus, if being intellectualy sound was the idea of gaining attention in the teenage years, such efforts would reap long benefits as slowly that habbit of being intellectualy sound would become part of the person's character without his or her knowing about it consciously. Thus, all these activities that a person often does in his or her teenage years be it attracting the opposite , flirting, trying to look good, taking care of other aspects of grooming all centre around the idea of becoming desireable. Now if we go further into the idea of becoming desireable, it really deserves to be done by a person who has a giver in himself or herself. The logic is simple and that is "Why would a company for example, market or advertise any product which is not going to be beneficial to its customers anyway?". In the same manner, why should a person engage himself or herself to attract any person of opposite for a girlfriend or boyfriend if he or she is not going to be commited or loyal to the person whose attention is being sort ? Thus, in the teenage years people are only marketing themselves to find the right life partner but then as they grow into mature adults, they should nourish the same relationship with commitment, loyalty, honesty and sincerity. That would make the whole process more romantic than simply flipping the pages of books giving you tips on flirting or attracting opposite without any intention of commitment at the back of the mind.What are your views on this ?